Don’t Should on Me!

How many times a day does someone tell you that you should be doing something?  Or you should have done something different?  Or you should try this? Or you should try that? 

How many times a day are you the one “shoulding” on someone else?  Are you the one always telling someone else what they should be doing?

It is easy the fall into the trap of telling people, from our own perspective, what or what not they should do, be, say, look like, act like, react to, coil from and well, I think you understand.

And then the could!!  If the should were not enough we often follow the should with the could.  You could have had that.  You could have been doing that.  You could…

These two words feel like shame words to me, they produce anxiety.  Telling someone else what they should have or could have done makes them wrong in some way. 

Right or wrong in our perspective doesn’t make someone else’s wrong,  just different.

  What do you think?