Simply Remembering

Arrogance really comes from insecurity, and in the end our feeling that we are bigger than others is really the flip side of our feeling that we are smaller than others.

Be yourself, be authentic, stop judging and comparing yourself to everyone else.  When you judge yourself against yourself then true growth can begin.

It really doesn’t matter what everyone else is doing or acting it just matter what you are doing and how you are acting and treating others.

The Domino Effect

The domino effect is a chain reaction that occurs when a small change causes a similar change nearby, which then will cause another similar change, and so on in linear sequence.

A beautiful lady shared a story with me today about a contest involving dominoes. This contest took place in Las Vegas. There were three groups in a race to build the biggest and the best structure. Each started out with great enthusiasm building quickly and accurately their creations. In the end an enormous castle with a fence and trees and bridges was built. The castle was elegant and elaborate with every detail imaginable. People were in awe!

After being on view for a while the builder wanted to watch the chain reaction of their structure, so out of the crowd they chose a small older lady to come a push a domino to start the effect. Though she was hesitant in her desire to touch the castle, they encouraged her to just touch a domino on the fence and she did. Within seconds the fence dropped one by one and then the trees, the bridges, and with great momentum the castle released itself piece by piece. The noise from the collapse was so loud the casino went quiet looking to see what had happened.

She went on to talk about how we are dominoes in each other’s lives. A small word, a warm hug, and fresh view can start a spiral of change that never has to come to an end.

What kind of domino are you?

What is your rippled effect in this world?

Change is a blessed part of life if indeed we reach for the place within ourselves that gets touched and embrace the journey, sometimes slowly one by one, and at other times the change comes with great momentum. Hold on tightly, your domino effect can change the world.

Let’s all start building our castles today!

Are You Letting Your Essence Show?

What defines your essence?

It is the most vital and intrinsic part of you, the heart and soul.

 It is that feeling we leave behind when we leave a room, a feeling that stays with someone long after we are gone.

It is our most important ingredient, inherent and unchanging, our most basic nature.

Our essence takes on a spiritual context as our spark, the spirit of our soul.

Wilson Vessely- Guest Blogger

With this new job I’ve taken, I’ve had to step out of my comfort level and deal with new challenges. I recently used part of David Whyte’s poem Self Portrait as a status update on facebook and have gotten responses of yes, the part I posted reads:

“…I want to know if you are willing To live day by day With the consequence of love And the bitter unwanted passion Of your sure defeat…”

Over the last few days, I’ve been struggling dealing with my feelings and my actions. I get very upset with myself when I mess up while working, and its not that I did it wrong that makes me mad, its that it is an easy task and I somehow keep messing it up.

Re-reading this poem has helped me realize that to be LIVING day by day with the consequence of love and the BITTER UNWANTED PASSION of my sure DEFEAT, I have to take my mistakes I make and remain positive about them, even though I feel stupid because I keep messing up, I have to realize that we all make mistakes. Life is too short to get worked up over something as small as this.

One of John Mayers recent twitter posts was:

RT: @johncmayer For all the times we punish ourselves, very few times have we actually done something wrong

When I read this, it brought tears to my eyes because of the validity of this in the last few days. The mistakes I made, yes some were actual mistakes, were learning mistakes.

Another post from John Mayer recently was:

RT: @johncmayer Go easy on you. When things go wrong, remind yourself it’s your first time through this life. Now go have a great weekend ya goof.

And I close on that, enjoy you weekend everyone.

Wilson

What do you think?

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Normal Again?

Normal: according with, constituting, or not deviating from a norm, rule, or principle: REGULAR

Looking at it that way yes, I’m normal again. The Thanksgiving bliss it over, everyone is happy and today starts a “normal” week.

Looking at it from a different perspective and the answer is no, and a thank god it’s no! I tend to not want to live my life in the arena of “normal.” Normal to me feels like just going along, playing it safe, and keeping it quite.

My normal looks something like this: Asking who are you, instead of what do you do? It is a hug instead of a handshake. It is a smile and great attention to you instead of looking the other way. It is meeting the bell ringer outside the stores with warmth and a thank you even if I don’t have a dime to give. It’s living, loving and learning everyday in a way that others can see and hear. It’s making mistakes out loud. It’s having success out loud. Normal to me is letting my light shine.

 It seems to me a better description of what “normal” should mean.

What do you think?

This little light of mine…

I’m going to let it shine. 

Let it shine, let it shine.

Hide it under a bushel basket?

No, I’m going to let it shine.

In the light of my shining soul, I can see your darkness and your light.  I can see if you belong or feel alone.  I can see the changes that you are making and the lives you are touching.  I can feel your light shining on my light because we are one.

Who I am to know these things?  I am you, who, knows these things too.

When we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. 

Spreading the love, the light, and the oneness of us all.

Much love and peace today!

Delirious!

As many of you know I love my 1981 Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary so away I go to see what Mr. Webster thinks the word delirious means.

Delirious:  of, relating to, or characteristic of delirium

Delirium: frenzied excitement

Brooke send me an email today telling me about her and Janette driving back home to Chicago.  She said:

I left my house today and between the amazing weather and the love from this weekend, I am looking at every stranger on the street with such great love….what a crazy feeling it is to be filled up so much.  I hope that everyone is feeling as wonderful as I am and is remembering to recognize it, and breathe it back into themselves.  I was thinking as you were debriefing everyone last night about how we really are a family, and just realizing for myself how I have gained so many amazing people in my life because of this journey.  Janette and I were ridiculous on the way home, and by the end of our journey we were downright delirious!!!

I love that word and I going to use it more in my daily life to express my own delirium.  I have been in a state of  tired frenzied excitement since arriving home also!  Witnessing the break through this weekend and seeing everyone grow so much is delirious!!  Mike, my husband and the chef, talked about the change he saw with every passing meal.  He was not anywhere close to your process but in the kitchen observing how your faces, posture, openness changed from meal to meal. 

I hope you all had a delirious day and that your light was shining so brightly that people were putting on their sunglasses in your presence!

Are We Selling Ourselves? Part 2

More to come….

The answer is yes!  If you don’t know the question then you need to refer back to the August 12, 2009 blog.

I have joined a wonderful networking group called Rainmakers, www.rainmakers.com.  I’m starting my day at a 7:30am breakfast networking event and it goes from there with different meeting and events to network Forgetting 2 Remember.

I have decided that I am going to approach this a bit differently than most do by asking, “who are you?”   versus, “ what do you do?”

We all get so wrapped up in what it is that we do that we can easily forget who we are.  Our identity becomes what we do!

Yes, I am here to network with others about F2R and to get the seminar out to the world but not at the cost of who I am or who they are.

 Another look at the question and I think the answer is somewhere in the middle of yes and no.  Yes, we do need to promote ourself and  business but not at the cost of being inauthentic.

So away I go in all of my humanity and essence to sell  me and I walked away from this day fully understanding that being present to who I am and sharing that with the world is all the selling  that I had to do.

And….if you want to flip out the world the next time you meet someone ask them, “who are you?”

What is the content of your Character?

This has been an interesting week here in Carmel, Indiana. The PGA Seniors Open is here at Crooked Stick Golf Course. I brought tickets for Mike (my husband) and myself to be able to go all this week. It has been amazing to watch the “big shots” practice so far. 

I am continually reminded that it does not matter if you are Greg Norman on a golf course or me in the stands. We have a certain character about us that we take every place we go.

Some of the “Big Shots” have shown there character quite well while others has shown that some where along the way something changed theirs and not in a good way. Did they get so big that they have forgotten that they are human beings? Or did they always think they were something more than the rest of the world? My guess is they have forgotten from where they came.

I have seen the biggest of the big golfers offer a kind word and help a fellow teammate and I have seen the biggest of the big ignore and walk alone without a word to the others. Why the difference, you ask? 

Character: a distinctive quality, a moral excellence and firmness, a reputation and disposition

 What is your character that you show up with everyday? 

Is it the same at work as it is at home?

If you were to be the observer of yourself would your character please you?

If I were to ask you for your autograph would you smile at me and gladly give it to me or would you want me to just go away?

It is about character. Who you think you are and what you have become as a result of that thinking.

Thumbs up to the Ben Crenshaw’s and the Dale Douglas’s of the world who are not forgetting 2 remember that we are all the same.

Now, I’m wondering why they didn’t ask me for my autograph? 

Comments anyone?

 

Being you!

 I recently met a beautiful young lady that seemed to be unconcerned with what others thought of her.  I found her to be refreshing in this time  where  so much focus is on ”fitting in”, dressing a certain way, being like everyone else. 

She  didn’t fit the  that mold in anyway.  She was pierced and tattoo, her hair very short and unusually colored.  I noticed that she had a tattoo on her forearm that was, I believe, in Latin.  I asked her about it and what it said.  Her reply was, “they condemn what they don’t understand”.  

Wow!  So very true !  

 When we make a judgement about someone else, that does not make that person what we say they are.  It only makes us a person that has to judge. And judgement comes from fear, insecurity, our own not understanding.

Just something to think about!  Have a great weekend!