Would you rather….Guest Blog, Wilson Vessely

I got a new app for my Iphone, “Would You Rather…” I was going through some of the questions, some I had to think about the others were quick, but one question really struck me: Hate or Be Hated. I answered and after you answer they show what percentages of people agree with you and disagree.

So take a moment, would you rather hate or be hated? And as my mom would do, let’s take it one more step and answer why?

60% of people chose hate. I fell in the 40% category. I’d much rather be hated then to hate someone. Sadly I think some people already hate me, so it’s not to far off. There are people I don’t like, but I honestly could not say that I hate someone, it’s such a negative thing.

When I was in high school I “hated” people. I’d say to my friends how much I hate that person, but looking back on it now, I was jealous of them, but I labeled it as, “I hated them.” I don’t think I could truly hate someone, or to wish they were non-existent. Everyone has a purpose, even if it’s to be an asshole.

“All you need is love” -The Beatles

Wilson

….Later, Really? Guest Blogger, Jessica Wilch

Last Thursday evening I had a speaking engagement for a group of women at a wine tasting party.  They were all friends and golf on the same league.  I have never attempted wine tasting (them) and self-awareness speaking (me) at the same time.  At the end of the evening I had done a good job at explaining to them how golf and life are one in the same.  How you show up for your golf game is no different than how you show up for life.  Even with some pretty “glassy eyes” I think they got it. 

Driving home I called my dear friend, Website Designer and sounding board, Jessica Wilch.  I was telling her how this group was much different than groups that I have spoken to in the past and that I was exhausted!  I told her that there was no way that I could go home and still do a blog for Friday.  She laughed and suggested I just do a “…Later.”  I got home opened up “Oscar” (My computer, yes he has a name!  Doesn’t your computer have a name?) and typed in “…Later.” I found a beautiful picture of a milk weed seed flying through the air and said, “Have a great weekend, I will talk to you again Monday.

Well, I will be darned, a comment came through on my “…Later” blog Friday morning!  What would someone have to say about that blog?  My dear friend Jessica which has NO ability at all to write (she lies to me all the time) sent in the following comment:

I remember an incident where a child was attending school and while sitting in class decided he had to go to the bathroom. So, after a bit of struggling and resisting the urge he raised his hand and gently waved it. The teacher thinking that the student was trying to be funny looked at the student and said out loud, “Later”. The student put his hand down in anguish.

After 10 minutes had gone by, the student was really in trouble and needed to be excused to go to the bathroom. He raised his hand once again. The teacher thinking again that the student was going to be a problem looked at the young child and said, “Later”. The student once more in total disbelief put his hand down.

Another 10 minutes went by and without warning the student stood up and walked up to the teacher. The teacher was astounded at what she saw as the student had relieved himself out of sheer frustration and pain. The teacher, alarmed and shocked, looked at the student and said, “What happened to you?” The student without pause, simply looked at the teacher as he excused himself and said, “Later”.

I was laughing so hard by the time I was done reading it that I was almost crying.   So thank you Jessica, my dear friend, Website Designer, sounding board and excellent writer for sharing your comments with me!

Hey Girl, Guest Blogger-Erik Sanford

A Dreamers Dream-guest blogger, Wilson Vessely

A DREAMERS DREAM
BY WILSON VESSELY

 

ALAS, I SIT ALONG SIDE THE EDGE,
LOOKING AT THE FAR AWAY GROUND,
WONDERING WHO IS LOOKING,
BUT I DON’T REALLY WANT TO BE FOUND,
FOR HERE IN MY DREAMS, THERE IS NO FEAR,
IN MY DREAMS, I COULD LEAP OFF OF HERE,
AND FLY WITH THE EAGLES, AND THE 747S,
I COULD FLY ALL THE WAY TO HEAVEN,
OR IF I DIDN’T LEAP,
I COULD TAKE A BUS TO A BUSY STREET,
WALK AND TALK, TAKE IN THE SOUNDS,
STILL NOT WORRYING WHO IS AROUND,
FOR IN MY DREAMS, THERE ARE NO WORRIES,
IN MY DREAMS, THERE IS NO HURRY,
FOR COFFEE, OR BOOKS, OR SCHOOL OR WORK,
IN A DREAMERS DREAM, AN END WILL NOT LURK.

Mindset-Guest blogger, Chris Ransdell

One guy was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a rope tied to their legs. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from the ropes they were tied to but for some reason, they did not. He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these beautiful, magnificent animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away.

“Well”, trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and at the age, it’s enough to hold them, as they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.” He was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were. Their powerful and gigantic creature has limited its present abilities by the limitations of its past.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life holding onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before? How many of us refuse to attempt something new and challenging because of our so called MINDSET?

Your attempt may fail, but never fail to make an attempt…

CHOOSE not to accept the false boundaries and limitations created by the past…

Life’s lessons-Guest Blogger, Don Stauder

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.

16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

36. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

42. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

45. The best is yet to come.

46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

48. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.

49. Yield.

50. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

 

 

 

Step Over to the Edge – Guest Blogger, Lydia Stauder

Step over to the edge with me. 

I can’t.  Why?

Because I’m afraid.

Step over to the edge with me. 

I can’t.  Why?

Because I may slip.

Step over to the edge with me.

I can’t.  Why?

Because I may fall.

They stepped over to the edge and jumped…and they flew!

Must I Write?-Guest Blog, Wilson Vessely

In the deepest hour of the night, confess to yourself that you would die if you were forbidden to write. And look deep into your heart where it spreads its roots, the answer, and ask yourself, must I write?

-Rainer Maria Rilke-

Meet Faith- Guest Blogger, Pam Zajac

This dog was born on Christmas Eve in the year 2002. He was born with 2 legs he of course could not walk when he was born. Even his mother did not want him.His first owner also did not think that he could survive and he was thinking of ‘putting him to sleep’.But then, his present owner, Jude Stringfellow, met him and wanted to take care of him.She became determined to teach and train this little dog to walk by himself..She named him ‘Faith’.  In the beginning, she put Faith on a surfboard to let him feel the movement. Later she used peanut butter on a spoon as a lure and reward for him for standing up and jumping around. Even the other dog at home encouraged him to walk. Amazingly, only after 6 months, like a miracle, Faith learned to balance on his hind legs and to jump to move forward. After further training in the snow, he could now walk like a human being. Faith loves to walk around now. No matter where he goes, he attracts people to him. He is fast becoming famous on the international scene and has appeared on various newspapers and TV shows. There is now a book entitled ‘With a Little Faith’ being published about him. He was even considered to appear in one of Harry Potter movies. His present owner Jude Stringfellew has given up her teaching post and plans to take him around the world to preach that even without a perfect body, one can have a perfect soul’.   In life there are always undesirable things, so in order to feel better  you just need to look at life from another direction.  I hope this message will bring fresh new ways of thinking to everyone  and that everyone will appreciate and be thankful for each beautiful day.  Faith is the continual demonstration of the strength and wonder of life.

A Jar and 2 Beers-Guest Blogger, Mike Kempa

Mayonnaise Jar & Two Beers..

WORTH A SECOND LOOK
 

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers. 

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him..
 
When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.
 
He then asked the students if the jar was full.
 
 
They agreed that it was. 

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar He shook the jar lightly.
 
 
The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.
 
 
He then asked the students again if the jar was full.
 
 
They agreed it was. 

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
 
 
Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
 
 
He asked once more if the jar was full.
 
 
The students responded with a unanimous ‘ yes. ‘  

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.
 
 
The students laughed.. 

‘ Now, ‘ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘ I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.
 
 
The golf balls are the important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. 

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. 

The sand is everything else—the small stuff.
 
 
‘If you put the sand into the jar first, ‘ he continued, ‘ there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
 
 
The same goes for life.
 
 
If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you..  

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
 
 
Spend time with your children.
 
 
Spend time with your parents.
 
 
Visit with grandparents.
 
 
Take time to get medical checkups.
 
 
Take your spouse out to dinner.
 
 
Play another 18.
 
 
There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.
 
 
Take care of the golf balls first—the things that really matter.
 
 
Set your priorities..
 
 
The rest is just sand.
 
 
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented.
 
 
The professor smiled and said, ‘ I ‘ m glad you asked. ‘  

The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there ‘ s always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.