“I Attract Peace, Not Conflict”

“Vow to have fewer conflicts in your life. You came from no conflict, so you can return there and know heaven on Earth by refusing to have your inner world conflicted by anyone at any time. Affirm over and over: I attract peace, not conflict.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

Easier said than done you say?  You are right!  This statement takes a fulltime awareness of your thoughts, feelings and influence of others.  It takes “catching” the conflict before you allow it into your inner world. 

It requires setting your intentions every morning. When you rise from your night of sleep with what you want for your day, make it positive; “I attract peace, not conflict.”  This simple act of putting the words into the Universe sets the day in motion. 

See what happens when you decide what your day is going to be.  Anything outside of that intention of peace will fall away as you keep your focus on the positive affirmation.

Let me know how this works for you?

This little light of mine…

I’m going to let it shine. 

Let it shine, let it shine.

Hide it under a bushel basket?

No, I’m going to let it shine.

In the light of my shining soul, I can see your darkness and your light.  I can see if you belong or feel alone.  I can see the changes that you are making and the lives you are touching.  I can feel your light shining on my light because we are one.

Who I am to know these things?  I am you, who, knows these things too.

When we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. 

Spreading the love, the light, and the oneness of us all.

Much love and peace today!

Don’t Should on Me!

How many times a day does someone tell you that you should be doing something?  Or you should have done something different?  Or you should try this? Or you should try that? 

How many times a day are you the one “shoulding” on someone else?  Are you the one always telling someone else what they should be doing?

It is easy the fall into the trap of telling people, from our own perspective, what or what not they should do, be, say, look like, act like, react to, coil from and well, I think you understand.

And then the could!!  If the should were not enough we often follow the should with the could.  You could have had that.  You could have been doing that.  You could…

These two words feel like shame words to me, they produce anxiety.  Telling someone else what they should have or could have done makes them wrong in some way. 

Right or wrong in our perspective doesn’t make someone else’s wrong,  just different.

  What do you think?

Just wondering…

I am just wondering…

 

 

are you living each day

 

 

or dying each day?

The schedule of ongoing and upcoming!

I have been so busy these past few days that I actually miss blogging yesterday! 

Jess and I are busy with updates to the website.   She is adding changes to the seminar page and also to the ongoing page.  

The next event that Forgetting 2 Remember will be at is on October 24th, 4:00-8:00pm.  It is an Ellis Events Inc. & Women Entrepreneurs of Indianapolis presenting, ”Recognizing A Women’s Worth,”  at the Madam Walker Ballroom, 617 Indiana Ave., Indianapolis.  There will be over 30 vendors sharing their products, businesses and value to women.  I will be one of them!  The cost for the evening is $5.00. There will be free food, live music and an opportunity to win some really cool door prizes.  Call me if you would like more information, it looks like a fun evening of celebrating women! 317-833-4952.

The  October newsletter is on it way with “A Forgetting 2 Remember Event” for all of us to get reconnected  in November.  Spread the newsletter to everyone you know!  I found a beautiful place to have our mini-events and have a great schedule of monthly gathering lined up.  These events are a great way to introduce someone to the intention of the weekend seminar without it being about the weekend in any way.  So bring all the people with you that you are talking to about Forgetting 2 Remember.  I can’t wait to see all of you again!

As always thank you for your comments, feedback and suggestions!

 

 

Are You Fighting Fair?

I received a call this morning about how to fight fair from this new perspective of the  Forgetting 2 Remember weekend seminar.

There are many different ways that we go about fighting, arguing and discussing with our significant others.  Most of the time we tend to do that from a place of anger, also know as fear!  The silent treatment, belittling, making cutting comments, streaming, making fun of… I think you get the message.  All of these actions or better yet reactions are coming from a place of fear when we are trying to defend ourselves.

My answer to the question this morning on how to fight fair was to do it from a place of love in your heart.  You can be angry, sad, mad, frustrated, hurt and still response from your highest self which is love.  Easier said than done, you say?  Yes, if you are not being aware of yourself.  We have a choice in every given situation to choose how to act and react. 

 Fighting fair is about choosing to be in conversation from love instead of fear.  Ask yourself these three questions:

1. Is it kind? 
2. Is it necessary?
3. Is it true?

All three answers must be “yes” to be fair.

What do you think?

Imagine the Possibilities

If you could step out of your fear, your box of comfort and explore a fresh view of your self and the world in which you live imagine the possibilities that you could create in your life!

How about living more fully in connection with Spirit and humanity?

How about reaching for the job that you have been sitting back waiting to fall into your lap?

How about the relationships you want to be in your life coming into fruition?

Imagine the possibilities of living with more confidence and inner trust to your own intuition.

The Universe waits for your leap to live more fully. The Universe already sees you in your full power and waits patiently for you to realize and remember just who you are.

Imagine the possibilities….Infinity comes to mind! 

Happy Monday!

The First 100

It is hard for me to imagine that just a few short months ago Forgetting 2 Remember was born. 

The labor has been intensive and the rewards have been beyond my wildest dreams. 

 The pregnancy, however, was many years in creation.  It’s birth at the perfect timing. 

I love the way God, Source, Higher Power, The Universe, (what ever you choose to call it) is divine in allowing for our highest intentions to become all that we want.  Conceiving the idea, allowing for it’s growth and development, nourishing the seed with constant love and commitment, laboring for the many hours of pushing through the process to get to the final results.  A masterpiece.

Thanks to all of you that have labored with me, encouraged the process and supported the journey. 

You have changed my life!  Cheers, to the next one hundred!

Much love and blessings,
Derinda

Seeing Yourself

I recently read an article on seeing yourself as others see you. As stated in the article ” we give more weight to actions that conform to our theory about who we are.” I found this to be very interesting. When you view yourself, you do that from what your intention is rather than what is perceived by the other person.

No wonder we often feel misunderstood!

We look at others from a distance and watch for actions and body language to match the content of what they are saying and we make a judgement from that point of view. You may feel that you are sending the right message but if you’re often misunderstood then you need to have a conversation around that subject. “What am I saying and what am I doing that leads to these miscommunications?”

How to see the real you

 

Ask a trusted friend. They often have a clearer view of us than we do of ourselves. Ask what they have noticed about how you speak about a particular issue. What are your non-verbal behaviors that you display that you might not have noticed?

Keep a journal of your actions over a few days. The aim is to spot behaviors you would otherwise ignore because they don’t ‘fit’ with your internal view of yourself. In Forgetting 2 Remember Seminars we refer to this as shining the flashlight on your self.

Learn to spot your feelings and reactions. This is different from dwelling on your feelings. It is about noticing how you feel when something unexpected happens. If your boyfriend or girlfriend suddenly breaks a date, is your immediate reaction disappointment or unexpected relief? Such split-second reactions can be indicative or our deeper feelings.

This journey, we call life, is about learning, loving, and living. Each moment a new fresh choice to do just that!

Enjoy!

 

Why are you worring?

Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, it empties today of its strength. 

Why do we cross that bridge twice?  Once with worry and the other with reality.  There is no purpose in that way of thinking.  

 Mark Twain so insightfully said, ” I have live a long and terrible life, much of which never happen to me.”  Worrying creates suffering and we have a choice in choosing to suffer.  Staying present to today is a perfect way to avoid such distress. 

Something to think about today and everyday. 

Make today your best day ever!