Remembering the True Meaning of Fear.

Wilson, my son, and I were talking this morning about business and what it takes to be successful. He is in the process of starting his own production company www.wilsonvesselyproductions.com  

 

 He has the same fears that we all have with starting a business and putting himself out there to the public. I was talking to him about the old salesman joke that you are going it get nine “no’s” before you get one “yes” so get out there early, get the “no’s” out of the way, so you have plenty of time left for your “yes.”

 

It is fear that holds us back from being all that we can be. Keep in mind that the “no” is NOT about you but that they do not in need to your service. We tend to take it personally, that there is something wrong with us, when in fact it has absolutely nothing to do with us! 

 

When it really comes down to it don’t we just want to know if our service can help or not so that we can move forward? 

When remembering that it is NOT about you, then nine “no’s” are like water off the ducks back.

And never give up the hope for ten “yes’s.” It can happen! 

Good luck Wilson! I’m incredibly proud of you and the man you are. Thank you also for making my Forgetting 2 Remember Video, it has been a great hit!

Fear= False Evidence Appearing Real

One year ago today…

 

Forgetting 2 Remember became a real live business.  Its conception had been years in the making, the time for birthing this dream finely came March 14, 2009.  It was amazing how easy the first few steps were.

What the first year of Forgetting 2 Remember has taught me:

 10.  I could not have ever accomplished this venture without so many people loving and supporting me along the way.  A very special thank you to the “test group, ”(Mike, Jared, Jess, Brooke, Wilson, Janette, Anna, Chelsey, Don, Lydia and Georgjean) that let me give the weekend a trial run to teach each other. You earned the purple shirts with flying success.  No pun intended! 

      “Remembering” we are never alone.

9.  The only difference between success and failure came down to whether or not I quit. That became very visible early on when the hours of creating became more than I could have ever imagined.  Thank you Mike, Anna, and Wilson for so unselfishly letting me build this seminar. 

      “Remembering” that with love we can change the world.”

8. People are blocked by fear on a level that was beyond my imagination, but with love, safety, and encouragement that fear can be released.

“Remembering” that all that we have learned can be unlearned and fear is no match  to love.”

7. The “gifts” from the weekend keep on giving and months later moments of clarity continue to appear.  

“Remembering” that we are all in a continual state of learning.”

 6. That my writing blogs and editing really needs to be turned over to a better English guru.  

“Remembering” spend your time doing what you love and what you are best at, outsource the rest.”

5. We never know what someone is going through on the inside, so when we meet someone in a place of fear, react with love.

       “Remembering” it is not always personal even when it feels like it

4. I have learned as much about myself this year as I have taught.

     “Remembering,” we are all teachers and students.

3.   Forgiveness is the key to peaceful living.

“Remembering” forgiveness has more to do with you and your freedom than it does  the other person.

 2.   The only thing that we have control over in this life is ourselves.

    “Remembering” life is a challenge by choice, embrace it with both hands.

1. That I am so blessed, loved and supported more than I could have ever recognized outside this passion for what I do; helping people to remember all the greatness that already lives in each of us.

      “Remembering” you are LOVE.

 Thank you all, we have only just begun…..

200th Blog of Forgetting 2 Remember

What an amazing experience this journey has been and continues to be!

On March 14th, 2009 I went into business with Forgetting 2 Remember, LLC.  On March 15, 2009 I posted my first blog, “Hello World.” 

Now, almost a year later, the 200th blog.  We have had thousands of visitors and many subscribers over this past year and I have been touched greatly by the comments and feedback. Each one has been an opportunity to continue the conversation and the growth that comes from that honesty.

 I set out on this venture with a passion and desire to change the way people “see”, to deepen and expand the experience of living as a complete authentic human being, and to facilitate a process of living with less fear and finding greater love for yourself, family, friends and community!  I had the pleasure last summer to see that dream transform 24 lives. 

This is the start of our second year with three intensive weekends planned and several smaller F2R monthly events. I joyfully wait for the journey to begin again and  can only imagine the possibilities this season holds.   We are blessed with a  new campground and even greater opportunities to expand. 

Thank you to all that have attended a weekend, shared their story, supported the scholarship program and held such great energy for me to create, grow and build this dream.  A huge thank you to my family, the staff  and my dear sweet Jess.  I am so blessed! 

So ” Hello World” again!  Thank you for the dance.

Priorities

You probably do not know unless  you have followed my blog for a while that I have a love affair with my 1981 Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary. 

I like to refer to it for the official definition of such words like; priorities.

Priorities: superiority in rank, position, or privilege.  Something meriting prior attention.

The Superbowl is on now.  I would normally be writing  my profound thoughts on a profound subject. I just can’t seem to do that.  This isn’t any Superbowl but our Superbowl!  It is not like some random teams are playing like the Buffalo Bills and the St. Louis Rams.

So, I hope as you are reading this you are also singing  ”We are the Champions.”

Indy Health Expo Weekend

What a weekend! 

 

Thank you to all of you F2R supporters and past graduates for coming out this weekend.  What  a blast it was to see all of you running around in your “Bridging The Gap” t-shirt telling everyone about F2R and promoting my speaking time!  You all made such a difference for the success of this weekend.  Even Sunday I had someone come up to talk to me about 

“my t-shirt people” and she was finally happy to connect with me at my booth. 

 

What a great response!  Many people have signed up to start receiving the monthly newsletters and I made some great connections with people ready to start living life more fully.  I’m looking forward to getting them signed up in the next few days for one of the summer seminars.

 

The Saturday speaking time came off without a hitch!  The crowd was great and engaged.  They participated in a welcome to life hug and a challenge by choice. Well, at least most of them did!  I ask them to stand and turn to the stranger next to them and meet that person eye to eye.  To “see” that person.  Mike, my husband, turned around to look into the eye of the man behind him. The man looked at Mikes F2R shirt and ask him if he had gone through a weekend retreat.  Mike told him that he cooks at the camp on the seminar weekends and that he is my husband.  The man laughed and said, “you live with this everyday!”  It was hilarious for me to watch this from the stage!  All he could do was laugh and look some place other than at Mike.  He is coming to a seminar this summer!

Jess has put a podcast of most of the “Life…is a Challenge by Choice” presentation on my website.  Check it out!

And again, thank you to each and every one of you for your incredible love and support.  I could not do what I do with you! 

Are you Good or Great?

Wayne Gretzky A good hockey player plays where the puck is. A great hockey player plays where the puck is going to be.

It is far easier in life to be good and just go in the direction of the majority.  But to be great requires something more;  thinking outside of the box, brazing a new trail and never quitting!

What is your level of commitment to great? 

To say, this is where I stand and in this place I am on my way to being the greatest at what I do, who I am and living fully in the power of Creation.

The “puck is going to be” at the seminar September 25-27th. 

Great things are happening at Forgetting 2 Remember.

Staying the course.

 This is from www.tut.com   

Yesterday I watched a small bird, flying very fast, disappear into the canopy of an oak tree. So dense were its leaves that it was impossible to see what happened next, though I can tell you it remained inside.

I wondered how the little bird found its opening through the leaves at such a speed, and then managed to gently align its fragile body on the branch it chose to land upon, all within a fraction of a second. Not to mention the impossible to imagine flying maneuvers required: the banking, the curling, the vertical and horizontal stabilizations, the deceleration and landing.

Memory? Calculation? Not in that tiny brain. Instinct? Maybe, but how does instinct know which way the branches of a tree have grown when no two are the same?

That little bird just knew. It had faith, in spite of not being able to see how things would work out, that if (and only if) it stayed the course the details would be taken care of; that an opening would appear and a twig would be found. In fact, had she slowed down enough to carefully and logically inspect the tree first, the prudent thing to do, she would have lost her lift and fallen to the ground.

Kind of like reaching for your dreams. Neither memory, nor calculating, nor instincts are the deciding factors, but faith coupled with action.

 

Tallyho,
    The Universe

WARNING: staying the course is NOT the same as clinging to a HOW.

 

Success

“It’s not the things you get but the hearts you touch that will determine your success in life.”  Mac Anderson

The Dash Poem, by Linda Ellis

I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning to the end

He noted that first came the date of her birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years

For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not how much we own;
The cars, the house, the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left,
That can still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough
To consider what’s true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger,
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we’ve never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.

So, when your eulogy is being read
With your life’s actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?

Have a great week and make your dash count!