Choosing to Live or Die Each Day

I came to the realization at a point in my own live several years ago that I was dying each day to the idea of how someone else thought I should live my life.  Wow! 

Are you doing that? 

Do you put other people’s ideas of you above your own? 

Whose life are you living? 

Keep the flashlight on, keep looking for your own voice and listen to the wisdom of your soul.  

This is your day to live!

The Game of “LIFE”

 

Why do we place so much pressure on ourselves to prove that we have it all together?

What is so wrong with being real and honest and sharing that we don’t always have all the right answers?

We are all human beings on this journey doing the same thing-trying to get by, trying to make a living, raising our families, trying to make a marriage work, trying to prove to everyone around us that we have it all!

I, as a Life Coach, friend, sister, wife, mother, and stepmother have never had it all together nor have I met anyone that does. 

We walk around pretending that “everything is fine.” Is it?

What would happen if we all dropped the ego, the pride, and just became real in our relationships with others?

Remember the game of “LIFE?”  In that game you pick your career, get your salary, head to the chapel and get married, pass a few spaces and start filling up the car with pink or blue pegs(children).  You spin the wheel again hoping to land on a good spot that lets you continue to move forward, all with the hope of having the biggest house and the most money at the end of the game.

How is that working for you?

Where are you in this game?

What would happen if you stopped playing and really started living?

It is not too late to join us for the May21-23, July16-18 or the October 1-3 intensive weekend retreats.

Are you ready to get real?

Living with Purpose

 I’m often asked what my business purpose is.  My purpose for Forgetting 2 Remember is to support you in a bridge building journey replacing fear and old beliefs with love and self-acceptance in a way that is transferable to family, friends, work and community.  How does that sound?

Interestingly, no one has ever come up and ask me what my purpose for living is.  It falls under the same category of people asking what you do, but never who you are.  So what is your purpose for living?  What gifts are inside of you that you give to the world? 

Living on purpose with your own mission statement seems to be a great way to stay on track to how you want to be living every day.  So what is your mission statement?  Think about it and let me know!

Just wondering…

I am just wondering…

 

 

are you living each day

 

 

or dying each day?

Seeing Yourself

I recently read an article on seeing yourself as others see you. As stated in the article ” we give more weight to actions that conform to our theory about who we are.” I found this to be very interesting. When you view yourself, you do that from what your intention is rather than what is perceived by the other person.

No wonder we often feel misunderstood!

We look at others from a distance and watch for actions and body language to match the content of what they are saying and we make a judgement from that point of view. You may feel that you are sending the right message but if you’re often misunderstood then you need to have a conversation around that subject. “What am I saying and what am I doing that leads to these miscommunications?”

How to see the real you

 

Ask a trusted friend. They often have a clearer view of us than we do of ourselves. Ask what they have noticed about how you speak about a particular issue. What are your non-verbal behaviors that you display that you might not have noticed?

Keep a journal of your actions over a few days. The aim is to spot behaviors you would otherwise ignore because they don’t ‘fit’ with your internal view of yourself. In Forgetting 2 Remember Seminars we refer to this as shining the flashlight on your self.

Learn to spot your feelings and reactions. This is different from dwelling on your feelings. It is about noticing how you feel when something unexpected happens. If your boyfriend or girlfriend suddenly breaks a date, is your immediate reaction disappointment or unexpected relief? Such split-second reactions can be indicative or our deeper feelings.

This journey, we call life, is about learning, loving, and living. Each moment a new fresh choice to do just that!

Enjoy!