Are You Creating Problems?

When you create a problem, you create pain.  All it takes is a simple choice, a simple decision: no matter what happens, I will create no more pain for myself.  I will create no more problems.  Although it is a simple choice, it is also very hard.  You won’t make that choice unless you are truly fed up with suffering, unless you have truly had enough.  And you won’t be able to go through with it unless you choose to live in the present moment of NOW.  If you create no more pain for yourself, then you create no more pain for others.  You also no longer contaminate the beautiful Earth, your inner space, and the collective human psyche with the negativity of problem making.  ( This is adapted from Eckhart Tolle, The Power of  NOW)

I have to stop at times to remind myself of this.  At any given moment there is no suffering in that present space.  All suffering is created from a past or a future thought.  So the next time you find yourself wrapped up in a problem, STOP!  It is not present.  Come back to the moment  now and be open to the gifts that are right here, right now. That is what is real, that is what is present and in that space everything is perfect. 

Happy Monday to all of you! I’m wishing you a day of living fully in the moment and enjoying each one.  Yesterday is over and tomorrow will take care of itself.

Why are you worring?

Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, it empties today of its strength. 

Why do we cross that bridge twice?  Once with worry and the other with reality.  There is no purpose in that way of thinking.  

 Mark Twain so insightfully said, ” I have live a long and terrible life, much of which never happen to me.”  Worrying creates suffering and we have a choice in choosing to suffer.  Staying present to today is a perfect way to avoid such distress. 

Something to think about today and everyday. 

Make today your best day ever!

Thinking from a different outlook.

Thinking!  Sometimes I think we think too much!  Always trying to figure everything out before it even happens.  What’s is going to be like?  What are we going to do?   What if?  What if not? 

None of this pre-thought in trying to understand what might be coming will ever take the place of the actually present moment.  We just create alot of suffering by having to continually try to stay ahead of life.  Because most of the thoughts are not real but the story of how we think or want it to look, feel or sound.  And  then so often when the real moment shows up we are disappointed because it did not happen as we had planned.  I love the quote from Mark Twain: ” I have led a long and terrible life, most of which never happened.”

Try not  to pre-live your life but to be openly aware of the gifts that the present moment has to give.  Show up in awe to each day, to each gift.  Look for what happens from this place of living.

Don’t make assumptions

Agreement 3, Don’t make assumptions.  We all have been taught what the word  assume means.  Remember?  Ass u me. 

We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything!  What other people are doing and thinking, how they are feeling etc.  And we assume that what we are thinking about the other person is the truth!

The problems that thinking can create is huge.  We misunderstand people, we take their actions personally and we end up creating a whole big drama for nothing.  If we wonder what someone it going through, then ask!  And have the courage to keep asking until you are clear about the situation that you were making assumptions about.

So much suffering can end in our lifes when we stop expecting someone to know what we want and need because they love us.  We must communicate fully and honestly so assumptions don’t have to be made.

Practice makes perfect, each time you catch yourself making an assumption about something and then realize it is just your own thoughts you can reinforce open, loving communication.  Slowly, and with practice , your old habits will cease and the new awareness’s will become where your life functions. 

Happy growing in awareness!

Pain and Suffering

 What a great way to start a perfectly beautiful Friday morning!

There is a huge difference pain and suffering.  Pain is something that we all experience as a part of life,  we smash our finger and feel physical pain , we lose loved ones and feel emotional pain, we can even experience physical pain for someone else’s pain.  But suffering is that which we bring on to ourselves!  Pain is inevitable, suffering is not.

We cause suffering for ourselves when we choose to sustain the loss or pain. For example; we lose a beloved pet,  that loss in very painful.  The suffering come from replaying the loss over and over, wishing or wondering if we should have done something different, been a better owner, took him or her on more walks.  The suffering created by that thought pattern can be overwhelming and devastating far beyond the actual loss of our beloved pet.  The suffering can stop when we choose to accept the loss, acknowledge that we are imperfect human being in an imperfect world and know that every minute of everyday we all do the best that we can.  And it was good!     The pain will eventually ease with time just as a smashed finger heals.   The suffering stop when you choose for it to stop.

Have a blessed weekend, lacking in suffering!  Talked to you again on Monday.

Much Love & Peace,  Derinda